It’s past my bedtime, so I’d better make this quick. Getting to bed on time is one of my most important self-care tools, after all. I feel loads better today than I did yesterday, and it helped that I talked to my life coach, C., today and she was awesome, as usual.
I told her about the juice bar date I had with the guy who said he hardly ever drinks except sometimes when he’s entertaining a client for work — and what a relief that was. And that when he asked me to dinner and I told him I didn’t eat meat (but I’ll eat fish), he didn’t skip a beat and came up with suggestions for sushi or other restaurants…
“That’s so great!” she said. “That’s the kind of person you want, someone who shares and supports your lifestyle!”
And I told her about a guy at work who just started paying (a little too much) attention to me (when it rains, it pours), and asked me if I’d be interested in going out “for a drink.” Still buzzing from the day before when the SMART therapist asked me, “Why not just say ‘I don’t drink’?” instead of making up excuses, I managed to answer the work guy with, “Well, I haven’t really been drinking.”
He also didn’t seem phased. He said, “Well, a drink doesn’t have to be alcohol… it can be any kind of drink.” Turns out, he’s been training for marathons the last several years and hardly ever drinks. “I can feel it affect my training when I do,” he said, and added, “So…you are a healthy person…” It was kind of a statement and kind of a question.
“I try,” I answered, suddenly feeling a bit shy about the whole thing. I hadn’t really thought about myself that way, but in that moment I was reminded that this is a positive thing, not drinking. A very healthy and good thing. I feel nothing but positive about the fact that I don’t eat meat — and it is also really healthy, even though that’s not my first motivation. It will take some time and practice (lots of practice), but I look forward to reflexively feeling the same way about living life alcohol free.
C. was thrilled. “I just love how you are attracting people into your life who share your values.”
The Law of Attraction. I believe it, and man, I’ve been working hard to turn my life, my energy, myself around. Some people believe we all have a frequency, and we attract people into our lives who operate on the same frequency. Good, bad, high, low, functional, disfunctional, healthy, unhealthy, and so on.
I want my frequency to be positive and healthy and passionate and uplifting, and quitting drinking is a huge part of that. And that’s who I want to attract into my life too.
Baby steps. 🙂
Rachel. Day 5.